It's Okay to Miss Them...

Happy Wednesday, Friends!

I know the topic that I’m about to discuss today is a little random, but it’s something that has been on my mind for some time now. This time last year, I was in my first real relationship with a really great guy. We began talking in late January of last year, became exclusive in early March, but broke up around mid to late May.

When we were dating, my mental health was NOT in a good place. I dealt with crippling anxiety during the time we were together, and I had a lot going on with work and life. Whenever I saw him and talked to him, however, all of the racing thoughts that lived in my head went away. We got along pretty well and had a lot in common, but we’re in different places in our lives and our breakup was a “right person, wrong timing'“situation (or at least that’s how I see it).

Fast forward to 2023 and I’m in a much better place than I was last year. I still have my struggles just like everybody else, but I am able to get through my bad days because of the amazing people that are in my life. I’m on the path to growing and healing and it’s been a hectic, but very rewarding journey.

Even though things have changed for the better, I still have moments where I reminisce on our relationship. I’m going to admit that lately I’ve been remembering everything we did together and wish we never ended things. Looking back is hard and painful, but I’m actually thankful for those moments.

You guys are going to think I sound crazy for saying it, but it’s true. When I go backward I move forward, meaning that while I still miss that person, I remember everything that was missing from our relationship and remind myself that there is someone out there who will love me unconditionally, and give me everything I need in a companion. When I come to this realization, feelings of loneliness and regret turn into hope and excitement and that is why I am here to tell you all today: it’s okay to miss them.

Missing your exes is not only a natural and very common thing to do, but it can help us grow. It can help us remember what we do and don’t from a boyfriend or girlfriend, giving us the motivation to stay patient and be open to who else is out there.

Bestie, if you’re missing your ex, remember these three things: 1) You’re not alone. 2) It’s common and you’re not crazy for missing them. and 3) Missing them can help you cope and grow.

I hope that whoever is reading this blog post feels a little less alone and continues to move forward when you look back.

Love,

Lexa